Mark Kahn

I got smash and grabbed at gunpoint Saturday night a week ago.

I pulled off the highway –  rather foolish it would seem – just before the entrance to OR Tambo International Airport. I was a little early to collect my partner Suzie from her plane trip from Cape Town and I didn’t want to get chased away at the arrivals point by security. A couple of minutes after pulling over, there’s this incredibly loud bang and I turn and see a guy standing at the passenger side window, having broken the glass, with a gun pointed at me.

My moment of truth.

I’m facing potential death. My anxiety was immense, partly because of the shock of the noise which was really very loud. [Read more…] about Improving Your Perceptions.

I’m working with a client on his Self-Esteem. At the end of the session, he says that he has lost his last invoice and needs a copy of it. In making this request, the tone in his voice and his body language is deeply, desperately and agonizingly apologetic.

I share my observation of this contorted apology with him and he says that he suddenly understands what the whole issue of internal power means in relation to Self-Esteem. The apology was completely redundant and out of place and it reflects how he is devaluing himself, not feeling he is good enough. [Read more…] about Self-Love is Not Apologizing for Being You!

How many times have you been hurt in your life?

How many times have you hurt others?

Is there really anything you can do to stop this?

I don’t think so. We can try to be more kind and compassionate, but in the end as long as people disagree about stuff, there’s gonna be hurt flying around. [Read more…] about Can You Stop Hurting People?