Mark Kahn

“Self-doubt is chopping your personality up into pieces and scattering them to the wind.”

Mark Peter Kahn.

I have spent decades creating this work and yet I continue to discover new things. Isn’t life wonderful?

What I discovered recently is that self-doubt is one of the greatest sources of our pain and suffering and collapsed Self-Esteem.

There is no question that the moment we doubt ourselves our Self-Esteem begins to crumble.

It’s best to work with an example so let me share one with you. I’ve just read a lovely quote from a friend on Facebook which went like this: “It’s as if before you there are countless doorways, all leading to new and different hallways. So you wonder and think, calculate and stress, over whether or not you will knock on the “right” one. They all lead to the same great room so you may as well just pick one.”

Really lovely. [Read more…] about Self-Doubt…the Confidence Wrecker!

 

My mother used to say: “A woman can never be too thin or too rich.”

I had a very hard time convincing her that this was a sexist and indeed outrageous comment. She passed on at the age of 87, 6 years ago – bless her gifts to me –  but even if she had read my book Love yourself for no reason, I don’t think I would have had a chance on this earth of changing her mind.

We are all deeply conditioned beings.

Culture brainwashes us, convinces us that certain things are incontrovertibly true. We live in a prison, filled with the ideas injected into us by parents, teachers, friends and colleagues, big business, the government, the media. Rejecting your body, is a learned behaviour, yet we treat it as fact. [Read more…] about I Must Lose Kgs…!!!

Our first world culture imprisons children with conditioned rules and beliefs, the vast proportion of which are just not true. We become slaves to these rules and live outside of our authentic selves, outside of freedom to choose and act in our unique and special ways.

One of the deepest forms of conditioning lies in the ways in which we are trained to be kind to others. And hence on this “World Kindness Day” I want to take a slightly different angle on the issue.

For most people World Kindness Day is about how to be more kind and generous and giving to others, probably particularly in relation to those who are not as fortunate as you might be. Of course this is wonderful and has the potential to make the world a better place.

I think there is another way to activate kindness that can make the world a much better place too! [Read more…] about World Kindness Day

You could fill an aircraft hangar with all of the books written about leadership. They talk about vision, innovation, mission, responsibility, enabling others and so on.

Get Out of The Victim Position First!

I want to talk about just one quality – it has three elements to it – which for me is the foundation of great leadership. It is about getting yourself as a leader, out of the victim position and into mastery before you do anything else.

In the victim position we get emotional and critical and angry and authoritarian, particularly under pressure. In this position, people make a lot of statements as opposed to asking questions and they don’t listen. People in the mastery position remain relaxed and cool and they are not victims of their emotions. [Read more…] about Great Leadership

 

Are you looking for fulfilment? Are you looking for happiness? Are you searching for that final key, the ultimate thing, that will give you the Self-Esteem that has eluded you all of your life?

These are the questions raised by the magnificent speech given by Jim Carey at the 2016 Golden Globe awards. This is how he is introduced as he comes on stage and these are his first few lines.

Announcer: “From the upcoming film True Crimes, please welcome 2 time Golden Globe award winner, Jim Carrey.”

Jim Carrey: “Thank you. I am two time Golden Globe winner Jim Carrey. You know when I go to sleep at night, I’m not just a guy going to sleep. I’m two-time Golden Globe winner Jim Carey going to get some well needed shut eye. And when I dream, I don’t just dream any old dream, no sir. I dream about being 3 time Golden Globe winning actor Jim Carrey, because then I would be enough, it would finally be true and I could stop this terrible search, for what I know ultimately won’t fulfil me.”

When I first saw this clip on television I was spellbound, knocked out by the insight and depth of clarity around these few sentences. [Read more…] about Jim Carrey & “I’m Not Good Enough.”