Love Your Self For No Reason

Psychologist - Fresnaye Cape Town

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Discover The Power Of Growth Mindset

Growth Mindset is discovering the power of being authentic, spontaneous, creative and connected...enjoying the moment - learning and growing - not focussing on the result.

"A Fixed Mindset is focusing on the result, the destination, not the journey. This leads to excitement...and depression. It is always chasing 'nirvana' in the future. It isn't there! It's here...now! "

Mark Kahn

"When you're given a positive label, you're afraid of losing it and when you're given a negative label, you're afraid of deserving it" Carol Dwek

"Enjoying the struggle and rewarding the struggling is arriving" Mark Kahn

A Fixed Mindset says you must FOCUS on success and RUN desperately from failure. A Growth Mindset is loving the energy of connecting and creating and being...NOW!

As you resist and struggle against adversity your dopamine levels drop and so does your motivation.

A child was scared of the hairdresser. The parents said you must go...and be brave...Fixed Mindset. The Dad then said: "Are you ready to go?" The child said: "No," And the Dad shifted into Growth Mindset and said: "Tell me when you are ready and you will learn to be brave!"

"When intention and impact are aligned, you have good communication." Charl Vorster. "The road to hell...is paved with good intentions." It is amazing how often this plays out in our relationships. We mean well, but the impact of our behaviour on others is toxic.

Learning to express your needs lovingly and skillfully with a positive impact, will allow love to flow in your relationships. (Adapted from Interactional Pattern Analysis - Charl Vorster and Jeanie Cave)

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