Mark Kahn

“Do you want to run smoothly or do you want your life to run smoothly?”

Mark Peter Kahn

 

 

It’s well documented how useful exercise and yoga and eating properly are beneficial for stress reduction and yes they are. I’m not going to talk about that here now because you can read up about that anywhere, anytime. Long term, if you don’t eat well and don’t exercise, it’s likely to impact your health and your stress levels.

Bad health is stressful!

The problem with all of these things is that they are an important foundation to dissolving stress but most of us need much more than this. They are just the foundation but not the rest of the house.

The Victim Position.

If you fight reality, you lose, but only every time. This is the Victim Position. Mostly we want the world to be different so we can feel better. It’s not going to happen very often. The more you learn to ‘run smoothly’ the better you will navigate the ups and downs of life. [Read more…] about Stress Management Techniques.

Sitting here right now as you are reading these words, how much are you wishing that you could get rid of the stress in your life?

You know how it goes, you come across a friend whom you haven’t seen for a while and they ask how you are and you tell them about your work stress, people stress, family stress and there’s the underlying wish or maybe longing, for the stress to go away.

But does it ever go away?

I talked some weeks ago about the law of conservation of pain, how when two people have differing needs, one of them has to experience pain. The pain is conserved in the system and we have a fantasy that it will go away and it doesn’t.

Out of this concept came the law of conservation of stress. [Read more…] about The Law of Conservation of Stress.

“We abandon ourselves because we were abandoned.”

Mark Peter Kahn

I had tea with a great friend of mine Barbara Kuppers – an amazing TRE trainer and facilitator – bsassy@telkomsa.net,  a couple of weeks ago. We got to talking about her daughter who’s just had a child. He is now six months old. She described to me what a magnificent mother her daughter is. She isn’t constantly shovelling food into the kid’s mouth at prescribed times as all of her friends are doing with their kids, as recommended by the paediatric clinic.

She comforts her child when he is upset and lets him eat when he’s hungry. She doesn’t immediately pacify him when he’s upset, with food – as so many mothers do. She’s listening to his needs and not parenting from her own anxiety and having to rescue him and make him feel better the moment he is distressed. [Read more…] about Great Parenting for Self-Esteem

“Some regrets and some mistakes, we want happiness but we can’t hold her.”

All that matters – by Cliff Richard.

 

This week’s blog is the longest I’ve written. My inspiration in the writing of it, was unstoppable. I hope you’ll stay the course with me.

It can be very distressing, not being happy enough.

Most people want to be happy.

Some people are so unhappy that they have given up on happiness and just want to die.

Outside of this group you might say that the wanting to be happy is the strongest motivation on the planet. [Read more…] about How Not To Be Happy!

I’ve been having the most creative time in my life this year. It’s been deeply inspiring and gratifying. However…isn’t there so often a ‘however.’

I have so much going on, the publication and marketing of my book, managing social media, managing my health which is no small thing given years of chronic fatigue and of course seeing clients – the stress of it all! [Read more…] about The Best Way to Relieve Stress.