Love Your Self For No Reason

Psychologist - Fresnaye Cape Town

Don’t Abandon Your Self-Esteem.

Self-Love is Not Apologizing for Being You!

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I’m working with a client on his Self-Esteem. At the end of the session, he says that he has lost his last invoice and needs a copy of it. In making this request, the tone in his voice and his body language is deeply, desperately and agonizingly apologetic.

I share my observation of this contorted apology with him and he says that he suddenly understands what the whole issue of internal power means in relation to Self-Esteem. The apology was completely redundant and out of place and it reflects how he is devaluing himself, not feeling he is good enough. [Read more…] about Self-Love is Not Apologizing for Being You!

Does Schooling Destroy our Confidence and Genius?

 

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For some years I used to introduce my corporate workshops by saying: “My name is Mark Kahn, I grew up in Johannesburg and spent 12 years in prison.” I would pause feeling the tension in the room and then I would say: “Some people call it school.” And everybody would laugh.

And then I would say: “How many of you felt like school was a prison for you?” And 70% to 80% of the room would raise their hands. [Read more…] about Does Schooling Destroy our Confidence and Genius?

Performance anxiety destroys confidence!

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When I was about 8 years old I went to a concert in the local church hall – interesting for a nice Jewish boy like me. A family friend made the introductory announcements. He shook from head to foot as he did so, I mean every part of his body shook, including the notes he was holding in his hands. It was monumentally embarrassing for all of the people who were there. [Read more…] about Performance anxiety destroys confidence!