Don’t Abandon Your Self-Esteem.

Sitting here right now as you are reading these words, how much are you wishing that you could get rid of the stress in your life?

You know how it goes, you come across a friend whom you haven’t seen for a while and they ask how you are and you tell them about your work stress, people stress, family stress and there’s the underlying wish or maybe longing, for the stress to go away.

But does it ever go away?

I talked some weeks ago about the law of conservation of pain, how when two people have differing needs, one of them has to experience pain. The pain is conserved in the system and we have a fantasy that it will go away and it doesn’t.

Out of this concept came the law of conservation of stress. [Read more…] about The Law of Conservation of Stress.

“We abandon ourselves because we were abandoned.”

Mark Peter Kahn

I had tea with a great friend of mine Barbara Kuppers – an amazing TRE trainer and facilitator – bsassy@telkomsa.net,  a couple of weeks ago. We got to talking about her daughter who’s just had a child. He is now six months old. She described to me what a magnificent mother her daughter is. She isn’t constantly shovelling food into the kid’s mouth at prescribed times as all of her friends are doing with their kids, as recommended by the paediatric clinic.

She comforts her child when he is upset and lets him eat when he’s hungry. She doesn’t immediately pacify him when he’s upset, with food – as so many mothers do. She’s listening to his needs and not parenting from her own anxiety and having to rescue him and make him feel better the moment he is distressed. [Read more…] about Great Parenting for Self-Esteem

“Some regrets and some mistakes, we want happiness but we can’t hold her.”

All that matters – by Cliff Richard.

 

This week’s blog is the longest I’ve written. My inspiration in the writing of it, was unstoppable. I hope you’ll stay the course with me.

It can be very distressing, not being happy enough.

Most people want to be happy.

Some people are so unhappy that they have given up on happiness and just want to die.

Outside of this group you might say that the wanting to be happy is the strongest motivation on the planet. [Read more…] about How Not To Be Happy!

I’ve been having the most creative time in my life this year. It’s been deeply inspiring and gratifying. However…isn’t there so often a ‘however.’

I have so much going on, the publication and marketing of my book, managing social media, managing my health which is no small thing given years of chronic fatigue and of course seeing clients – the stress of it all! [Read more…] about The Best Way to Relieve Stress.

I got smash and grabbed at gunpoint Saturday night a week ago.

I pulled off the highway –  rather foolish it would seem – just before the entrance to OR Tambo International Airport. I was a little early to collect my partner Suzie from her plane trip from Cape Town and I didn’t want to get chased away at the arrivals point by security. A couple of minutes after pulling over, there’s this incredibly loud bang and I turn and see a guy standing at the passenger side window, having broken the glass, with a gun pointed at me.

My moment of truth.

I’m facing potential death. My anxiety was immense, partly because of the shock of the noise which was really very loud. [Read more…] about Improving Your Perceptions.