Love Your Self For No Reason

Psychologist - Fresnaye Cape Town

Mark Kahn

Everyone’s Doing Their Best – Even When They’re Not Doing Their Best!

Everyone has wondered why the world is the way it is.

Much love and joy, but so much pain and suffering and disease and chaos.

We also wonder why people are so wonderful and kind and caring and loving and yet so erratic and crazy and betraying and deceitful?

I’ve wondered about it too and I’ve also noticed how we all go into to judgement when things don’t go the way we want them to and when people don’t behave the way we want them to.

I’ve noticed how superior we feel when we are judging others.

What’s also fascinating to see is how good it feels when we do this.

I’ve also seen how this is also very painful and it’s painful because it creates a separation between us and life and this separation is isolating.

But we don’t tend to notice the pain. [Read more…] about Everyone’s Doing Their Best – Even When They’re Not Doing Their Best!

Falling Into Stillness

I am working with a client who is doing a business deal that could potentially make him millions.

He is anxious about all of the potential negative impacts this could have on his life.

Very wise.

As we speak I am looking for that feeling, that sense of something deep and pure and infinite, beneath the longing for more, the fear of loss and pain and trouble.

I sense the truth and the love that lies, beckons, beneath the grasping.

I fall backwards downwards into my heart.

All is full and still.

 

The Dangers Of Kindness

Most people – excluding psychopath’s, serious narcissists and bullies – usually want to do good in the world.

They want to be kinder, less selfish, and generally speaking more giving.

You would naturally say that this is a very good thing, but wanting to be a better person in this way, though a good thing for others, can be devastating to you! [Read more…] about The Dangers Of Kindness

Waiting For Godot.

I’m running two workshops on today.

A unique experience.

Biggest pressure is, will I have enough energy to do it?

Will the cup of coffee at lunch time keep me going?

Energy, physical energy, such an amazing thing. We are nothing without it.

When I don’t have it, I feel like…nothing, like some half-baked, shell of a somebody.

Not many people see me like that. The hidden persona, sucked dry of juice.

Waiting for Godot.

 

 

“Everything Happens For A Reason.” – Are You Sure?

I cannot tell you how many times my clients have said to me, after some stressful or traumatic event, “Well, everything happens for a reason.”

Do you know what I see in them when they say this?

A desperate attempt to rationalise away the pain of something they just cannot deal with.

Mostly, it doesn’t work, because deep down inside they really don’t believe that it’s true.

I don’t believe it either.

I sometimes ask them if saying this makes them feel better.

Invariably they say no. [Read more…] about “Everything Happens For A Reason.” – Are You Sure?