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Oct 24 2017

Loving An Injured Scrub Hare

Last night gorgeous cat Frank brings home a gorgeous little scrub hare, who is innocence beyond the naming of it.

Frank is showing off his prize catch.

As I reach to save the hare, Frank drops her and she limps desperately to get away.

After a few phone calls I am in the car with said hare, snugly wrapped up in a shoe box, on the way to the 4 Ways Veterinary Hospital. I notice my somewhat desperate ‘wanting’ to keep this beautiful furry thing alive.

I think, “This ‘wanting’ the rabbit not to die is nuts, it’s not helping this fragile creature at all. In fact it’s probably making things worse!

It’s contracted and anxious.

It’s a screwed up energy.”

I let the ‘wanting’ go.

I drop softly into love and the atmosphere in the car transforms.

Perhaps this endless ‘wanting’ we do, is the antithesis of love.

Written by Mark Kahn · Categorized: Self Esteem DIARY

Oct 20 2017

Are You A Moody Parent?

A couple of weeks ago a friend of mine asked me to write about the impact of parent’s moods on kids. She was concerned about how her mood and the mood of her husband was impacting on her seven-year-old child.

The short answer is, parent’s moods have a very deep impact on their children.

Here’s the long answer: [Read more…] about Are You A Moody Parent?

Written by Mark Kahn · Categorized: Self Esteem

Oct 18 2017

The Mind Is A Dangerous Place!

I just watched a video by Michael Singer, author of The Untethered Soul.

He talks about the mind being a dangerous place. It bullies us endlessly with its paranoia and need for control everything that’s happening on the outside.

I just love that.

I’m a danger to myself!

Like a suicide patient. On a daily basis I am on a mission to die.

Tragic and somehow quite funny.

As I smile at myself, the danger seems to dissipate.

Written by Mark Kahn · Categorized: Self Esteem, Self Esteem DIARY

Oct 13 2017

“To Stagnate Or Grow?” – That Is The Question.

Hamlet famously asked the question, “To be or not to be?” meaning should I kill myself or not?

My response regarding our psyche is, “To stagnate, or grow, that is the question?”

It has so often amazed me how the world has changed in just the last 100 years. In the year 1900, few people dreamed that we could routinely fly around the world and be planning trips to Mars, or talk to someone instantly via email or Skype on the other side of the world, or download a book electronically in seconds, yet those very creators of this technology are, as I type, fighting with their partners, cheating on them sexually, feeling hurt and betrayed by the smallest of insults.

We have grown immensely in the use of our minds, but our hearts remain far, far behind. [Read more…] about “To Stagnate Or Grow?” – That Is The Question.

Written by Mark Kahn · Categorized: Self Esteem

Oct 11 2017

Lazer Surgery – Love & Power

I’m lying on my back in the retinal surgeons office.

Two years ago I developed a hole in the retina of my left eye.

It can lead to a detached retina and blindness.

Panic!

Lazer surgery was performed. I recently discover that it was inadequately done – hence I am back again, at a new surgeon, being ‘fixed.’

I’m scared and I notice that when I feel this way, there is no power and no love inside of me.

So as I lie there waiting for this bright light invasion of my vision, I connect with power, release the fear from my heart and feel the love.

I even drive myself home afterwards, very different from the vulnerable fragile me of 2 years ago.

It’s transforming, but I notice that while I am doing this my body is tight.

The power dissolved the fear, but perhaps not enough love to dissolve the tension.

More work for the next challenge.

Written by Mark Kahn · Categorized: Self Esteem DIARY

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