Psychologist - Fresnaye Cape Town
One of the most defining features of the human race is our need to attack others and to defend against that attack.
My personal experience of this is that it is extraordinarily painful, even agonizing at times. I think that is what got me started on the psychological and then spiritual path. Looking for a way out of this pain. [Read more…] about Are You Hiding From The World?
Wednesday the 9th of August is International Women’s day.
I had some thoughts.
In the movie Gigi, which I saw about 100 years ago, Maurice Chevalier sang thank heaven for little girls.
I sing, thank heaven for the women that little girls become!
What is really fascinating to me is that so many men have written so many songs about how much they love women and how devastated they are when the woman rejects or leaves them and yet women are so judged by these very same men.
There is so much misogyny (woman hating) in the world – We see this most in the men who are most chauvinistic. Beneath this chauvinism lies a deep sense of inadequacy and vulnerability and to compensate for this, men need to control and dominate women. [Read more…] about Women’s Day 2017!
Everyone has heard this statement, but do you know how to work with it, to stop doing the same things, to stop behaving like an insane person?
Which gets me to the problem with inspirational quotes.
They sound great and they feel good for about 20 seconds, but the challenge is, to what extent are we putting that inspirational quote into practice right now!
As Adyashanti so wisely says, “A great insight is only as good as the surrender it engenders.”
You might therefore ask yourself the question, “In what ways am I behaving insanely right now, in this very moment?” [Read more…] about Insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results!
Virginia Satir, a world famous family therapist says that only 4% of intimate relationships are nourishing. My personal and professional experience draws me to the same conclusion.
Why is this so?
Just to start with, I think there are 3 main reasons. [Read more…] about Why Are Only 4% Of Intimate Relationships Nourishing?
“Do you want to run smoothly or do you want your life to run smoothly?”
Mark Peter Kahn
It’s well documented how useful exercise and yoga and eating properly are beneficial for stress reduction and yes they are. I’m not going to talk about that here now because you can read up about that anywhere, anytime. Long term, if you don’t eat well and don’t exercise, it’s likely to impact your health and your stress levels.
Bad health is stressful!
The problem with all of these things is that they are an important foundation to dissolving stress but most of us need much more than this. They are just the foundation but not the rest of the house.
If you fight reality, you lose, but only every time. This is the Victim Position. Mostly we want the world to be different so we can feel better. It’s not going to happen very often. The more you learn to ‘run smoothly’ the better you will navigate the ups and downs of life. [Read more…] about Stress Management Techniques.